What is the appeal of financial domination for the men who practice it? I mean, it's obvious why a woman would like to do that. Make fun of people and they give you money? SIGN ME UP. Right?
Well, it's complicated.
Humiliations and degradation of the male is a perverse reverse side of the coin for the humiliation and degradation of the female.
Would it be so common if the established attitudes weren't all stereotypically one-sided?
I discovered Ayesha yesterday. As much as she goes straight for shock value there is some substance there.
If humiliations and degradations of the male include dressing them as female, that is not in fact degrading to the man but to the woman. Just like in online games or in business, men insult other men - not by calling them immature - but by calling them women. This is more insulting to any woman present than to any man, because it infers that even grown women are "worth less" than immature men, ie, boys, simply because that's the worst insult you can do aside from calling someone a nazi. But calling a woman a man is not supposed to be an insult? Huh?
I'm sure there must be some men who debase themselves and wish to be elevated to the status of women by dressing up and feeling beautiful - but again this is a societal problem in that maleness and male bodies and male dress are not currently allowed to be perceived as beautiful! Which is just sad.
Then, there's the white piggy syndrome. Similar to the white elephant, in that it's ignored. If you take money from your submissive, you either DON'T TALK ABOUT IT or you brag about it and make it part of your schtick.
There's no middle ground. There's the "good" Femdom, who simply doesn't tell people, and there's the "evil bitch" Femdom who revels in humiliating men and parting them with their money for her selfish purposes.
Why, in a "normal" Female led relationship, is this something to be hidden? It's just done, unspoken. Even when the woman has her own money, often the submissive will give her money as a symbol of surrendering his power to her for her use. But it's not talked about.
Is there a perceived stigma against the women who practice Financial Domination? Or the men who give money to women? Is it perceived as weak for a woman to accept money from a man?
Is it tied somehow to Pro work, that the men are paying for the humiliation they receive more than just donating to a woman's pleasure?
Please comment or email me or tweet, if you are a male who has given money to a Female Dominant. Let me know what motivates you to give. What do you get out of doing it? Is it the humiliation? Is it somewhat like donating to a charity and having that feel-good glow?
Help clear up my confusion on this, the White Piggy in the Room.